Thursday 30 August, 2012

Female foeticide on the rise....


The barbaric acts that are committed against women are endless and there's no single cause behind these issues. The secondary status of women and the fact that she is considered nothing more than a commodity has a significant role to play behind the imbalance in female to male sex ratio.

In India, female foeticide and infanticide are rampant and the number of cases being reported is increasing by the day. Rural areas without means to determine the sex of their child wait till it is born and when the newborn is a girl child; they go ahead and kill the baby without a second thought. These babies are strangled to death, poisoned, starved or sometimes, even thrown in garbage bins. The male child is considered to be superior and its birth is celebrated by one and all. The continued practice of dowry, even though it is illegal and a fear that the girl child may be abused are believed to be some reasons behind the increasing number of incidences of female foeticide in India.

China is another example where technology seems to have facilitated the slaughter of the girl child even before its birth. Gender identification by ultrasound scanning has only aggravated the situation and helped enhance the menace. It's disturbing to see the indifference in the attitude of government and medical professionals. The government has banned determination of sex of the baby in the womb but several cases of illegal practices and unsafe abortions have been reported. The 'Dying Rooms' report by BBC many years ago had claimed that conscious decisions to let infants die of starvation were made by orphanages in China. On the outskirts of Beijing many have reported that newborn baby girls were being abandoned to starve and die. 

Many have voiced their concern over this sensitive issue and campaigns have been launched to create awareness. The menace will be hard to fight till we all realise that each girl child born is a unique and valuable human being who is entitled to equal opportunities as everyone else. It does not matter whether she is born in an affluent family or in some faraway village, she has the right to live and live it without submitting to anyone's dictates. Society needs to change its notion that a woman should be submissive and obedient towards her husband/father. Gender discrimination only makes the situation worse and people go on living this life of blissful unawareness. Many states in India have witnessed adverse demographic implications and a dip in the number of girls born.

According to a United Nations report, an estimated 2000 unborn girls are illegally aborted in India every day. Parts of Haryana have witnessed a dip in sex ratio - 618 girls for 1,000 boys. On the whole, while the national sex ratio is 933 per 1,000 men, in Haryana, Punjab, Chandigarh, and Delhi, it is below 900. Such alarming figures are sure to raise doubts in our mind whether enough has been done to curb female foeticide. The deeply entrenched values and beliefs that exist in our society are a hindrance to the all round development of women. Women need to be treated as equals and should be given all the rights that come under the purview of human rights. Equality of status for the girl child has to be ensured and strict laws have to be in place to protect the life of the born and the unborn. 

Monday 13 August, 2012

The Sarvgunna Sampurnaa Indian Bride...


When you reach a certain marriageable age in India, expect a rise in attention and importance wherever you go. Whether it’s a wedding, a house-warming party or New Year’s Eve, people will come to you and engage in a long drawn conversation about your plans to get married, have kids, and settle down. You are not getting any younger (thanks for the reminder; I needed it to boost my self-esteem), are you learning how to cook? You can never keep your man happy if you don’t learn how to cook well – these are some very common statements that one can expect to encounter. When this happens to me, I walk away with a polite smile plastered on my face not knowing what to say. I feel like retorting, well it’s none of your business aunty ji when and with whom I plan to “settle down” but rudeness is not going to help anyone. It may however, make things worse as you get labelled as the nakhrewali tewars in the world.

Things get worse when it’s your lovely parents who are now on the lookout for an eligible groom. Eligible eh? The matrimonial pages in newspapers are full of it. The post of husband is empty; kindly apply if you meet the eligibility criteria. Sounds crazy but that’s exactly how I see it. Why else would one describe body stats, skin colour, educational qualifications, etc. just to get married? The bride has a wheatish complexion, is 5 ft 7 inches and is convent educated – these descriptions are classic matrimonial stuff.

Forget newspaper matrimonial classifieds, this is now the dot com age where matrimonial websites are fiercely competing to outdo each other. You can take your pick. Parents, who had shied away from modern technology, are more than willing to change their ways just to find a homely girl for their laadla son. The pressure to get married goes up a notch when they get requests which are good enough to go ahead with. Mission accomplished, now it’s all about screening and picking the good ones out of the lot.

All the girls you meet are suddenly gunawatis who can barelythink about themselves. Family comes first; cooking is my passion, and my dream is to be an agyakari bahu who knows how to behave. Well done! The girl has impressed everyone. A shy smile in the end seals the deal.

The bride and the groom both behave like sacrificial goats and give in to all the pressure. In some cases, it’s the other way round. Women are now tired of waiting for true love to happen. “True love shove gaya bhaar mein, I am ready to get married to the next man I meet who is good enough to be my husband, says 33-year-old Anita.

It all comes down to personal taste, preferences and outlook in the end. If you are up for an arranged marriage, there’s nothing wrong with it. Many couples who are now married have all met their partners through relatives, or online on matrimonial sites and are now very much in love. Initially, things may be awkward but once you get used to it, who knows you might even enjoy it. 

Ref. MSN "She"...

The sarvgunn sampanna bride

The sarvgunn sampanna bride