When you reach a certain marriageable age in India, expect a
rise in attention and importance wherever you go. Whether it’s a wedding, a
house-warming party or New Year’s Eve, people will come to you and engage in a
long drawn conversation about your plans to get married, have kids, and settle
down. You are not getting any younger (thanks for the reminder; I needed it to
boost my self-esteem), are you learning how to cook? You can never keep your
man happy if you don’t learn how to cook well – these are some very common
statements that one can expect to encounter. When this happens to me, I walk
away with a polite smile plastered on my face not knowing what to say. I feel
like retorting, well it’s none of your business aunty ji when and with whom I
plan to “settle down” but rudeness is not going to help anyone. It may however,
make things worse as you get labelled as the nakhrewali tewars in the world.
Things get worse when it’s your lovely parents who are now on the lookout for an eligible groom. Eligible eh? The matrimonial pages in newspapers are full of it. The post of husband is empty; kindly apply if you meet the eligibility criteria. Sounds crazy but that’s exactly how I see it. Why else would one describe body stats, skin colour, educational qualifications, etc. just to get married? The bride has a wheatish complexion, is 5 ft 7 inches and is convent educated – these descriptions are classic matrimonial stuff.
Forget newspaper matrimonial classifieds, this is now the dot com age where matrimonial websites are fiercely competing to outdo each other. You can take your pick. Parents, who had shied away from modern technology, are more than willing to change their ways just to find a homely girl for their laadla son. The pressure to get married goes up a notch when they get requests which are good enough to go ahead with. Mission accomplished, now it’s all about screening and picking the good ones out of the lot.
All the girls you meet are suddenly gunawatis who can barelythink about themselves. Family comes first; cooking is my passion, and my dream is to be an agyakari bahu who knows how to behave. Well done! The girl has impressed everyone. A shy smile in the end seals the deal.
The bride and the groom both behave like sacrificial goats and give in to all the pressure. In some cases, it’s the other way round. Women are now tired of waiting for true love to happen. “True love shove gaya bhaar mein, I am ready to get married to the next man I meet who is good enough to be my husband, says 33-year-old Anita.
It all comes down to personal taste, preferences and outlook in the end. If you are up for an arranged marriage, there’s nothing wrong with it. Many couples who are now married have all met their partners through relatives, or online on matrimonial sites and are now very much in love. Initially, things may be awkward but once you get used to it, who knows you might even enjoy it.
Things get worse when it’s your lovely parents who are now on the lookout for an eligible groom. Eligible eh? The matrimonial pages in newspapers are full of it. The post of husband is empty; kindly apply if you meet the eligibility criteria. Sounds crazy but that’s exactly how I see it. Why else would one describe body stats, skin colour, educational qualifications, etc. just to get married? The bride has a wheatish complexion, is 5 ft 7 inches and is convent educated – these descriptions are classic matrimonial stuff.
Forget newspaper matrimonial classifieds, this is now the dot com age where matrimonial websites are fiercely competing to outdo each other. You can take your pick. Parents, who had shied away from modern technology, are more than willing to change their ways just to find a homely girl for their laadla son. The pressure to get married goes up a notch when they get requests which are good enough to go ahead with. Mission accomplished, now it’s all about screening and picking the good ones out of the lot.
All the girls you meet are suddenly gunawatis who can barelythink about themselves. Family comes first; cooking is my passion, and my dream is to be an agyakari bahu who knows how to behave. Well done! The girl has impressed everyone. A shy smile in the end seals the deal.
The bride and the groom both behave like sacrificial goats and give in to all the pressure. In some cases, it’s the other way round. Women are now tired of waiting for true love to happen. “True love shove gaya bhaar mein, I am ready to get married to the next man I meet who is good enough to be my husband, says 33-year-old Anita.
It all comes down to personal taste, preferences and outlook in the end. If you are up for an arranged marriage, there’s nothing wrong with it. Many couples who are now married have all met their partners through relatives, or online on matrimonial sites and are now very much in love. Initially, things may be awkward but once you get used to it, who knows you might even enjoy it.
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